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I encourage you to put a stop to this IMMEDIATELY! It's not him that sets the limits of how you'll be treated. It's you.

Unfortunately, when you set those boundaries, he *will* resist and get even more controlling. Before you begin, you should have a plan for what you can do in the worst case scenario (if he should turn physical.)

I would recommend starting by asking, "Honey, there's something that might be a difficult discussion, but it's one we need to have. When is a good time?" Whether it's right then or later, you need to let him know that while his happiness is very important to you, your own matters just as much, and that you're unhappy that he mistrusts you. If he denies that he mistrusts you, say you're glad to hear it but that you believe otherwise. Then describe that in order for you to believe he trusts you, you must feel that he trusts you to do the right thing when you go out with others. Be very clear that if you cannot have trust between you, you will be evaluating whether to leave the relationship. Don't say anything you don't mean, though. The more times his control attempts work, the more he learns to control. He's out of line, and only you can decide not to interact with people who want to control you.

Source: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/59234-husband-controlling.html

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